People these days are so focused on getting a quick sexual high and are continuing to chase it, yet don't realize love and sex correlate directly. When you love someone and have a genuine connection that goes more than what meets the eye there is passion, there is an openness and willingness to give yourself to that person. You are choosing one instead of the other, don't get me wrong everyone enjoys sex, and feeling sexually satisfied. And I am not against a quicky here and there, there's a time and a place. However, the reason you continue to bed & partner hop is due to the fact there is nothing more than superficial attraction. There is the surface attraction which will get you into bed and into the next "relationship".
Sex is meant to be special, it is meant to be shared with someone you love deeper than the surface and superficial crap. These days everyone has made it normal to just get off and move on and blame it on society. Men and women included are both guilty of this... it is now the hot discussion topic of conversation. Everyone should be able to express themselves sexually and not be or feel judged. I do agree with that 100%. I am not one to judge but the reason so many people are unhappy and left sexually unsatisfied is due to the lack of genuine connection. The reason you are always seeking and in search mode is because the satisfaction you crave will never be in a one night stand.
Personally it is difficult for me to sleep with anyone if there is no mental connection, physical attraction, and most importantly someone who is in tune with my emotions and feelings. Why, well for me I can not fully give myself to someone I do not share that connection with, which means it will not be enjoyable for me.... so in my mind why do it, there is no reward so it is not worth the risk. I know many people who are similar and I know people who are polar opposite. That is what makes the world go round, but if you think back to the best sexual experience you had, think about why that was. Was this person in tune with you, your wants, and your needs? Was this a long term partner, someone you've known long? Whenever I talk to my friends, the best sexual experience they share is with the person they felt connected to and loved by the most. This has been heard from both men and women, why because relationship sex is more enjoyable, pleasureable, and easier to communicate with your partner.
This has been heard from both men and women, why because relationship sex is more enjoyable, pleasureable, and easier to communicate with your partner. Most people think a one night stand is sexy and spontaneous. In reality you don't know the person, you're afraid to communicate what you enjoy for fear of judgement or rejection, and on top of it you have no clue what they like or dislike. In a relationship you and your partner are focused on making one another happy, you are comfortable communicating with one another in order for you both to achieve happiness in the relationship. Plus relationship sex is more consistent and frequent, who would say no to more sex? Relationship sex is more passionate, more intimate, and there is more than just a physical connection. Plus you can avoid the weird awkward mornings the day after ;)
So stop looking for the quick fix, focus on the long term happiness and connection and I guarantee it will lead to a life of more enjoyable sexual satisfaction.