Nothing makes me more irritated when people act like women should be shy and silent on this topic! There is Slutshaming, but never and man hoe shaming. The only name men got in this day and age is "fuckboy" which is really fitting to my generation! Women are just as sexual as men, and damnit we are here to talk about it!
Anyway story time, Jane and I were hanging around in a group setting with several other women and the topic came up on giving and receiving! Yes you know what I am talking about, and the common denominator during this conversation was that it became a game of tit for tat... Sex is not about you do this I do that, it is not meant to be a game of keeping score ( don't get me wrong, I know plenty of women who will give babe a BJ to get what they want or end an argument) Nothing wrong with using your strong suits during these times (haha).
But in all honesty sex is about what feels good and what you like, so guess what men and women if you are not getting what you want or what you need express it, communicate it, send a text, an email. I don't care whatever way is going to work, if you don't of course it is never going to happen! Like ever, so don't wait around for it, your sex life will be collecting dust by this time! Just TALK, people forget to TALK! I am not expert but it is something you learn from your partner, these things take time and patience. I can also say if communication is going to be a new thing for you then maybe try giving out what you want to receive. You never know it might get reciprocated back!
Some people are naturally givers, and for some that is where they get their pleasure from, so take that into consideration. I have learned when I am more giving my partner usually follows suit! But again trial and error no one ever said less sex is better sex!
Tip of the week - TAKE WHAT YOU WANT AND COMMUNICATE IT WITH YOUR PARTNER!
